Last Wedding Of The Summer....

 

Hi! 

Well, that's a wrap! (At least for this summer)

We had the honour of providing the music for one last wedding of the summer this Labour Day weekend.

Special moments shared in an incredible, historic venue.

You know, we've been DJing, and putting on karaoke shows for about 23 years now, and weddings remain my favourite event. Two families, shared friends, childhood friends, and brand new friends collide, creating magic.

As we observe from our little corner of the space, the love and support aimed directly at the new couple, the clinking of glasses to prompt a kiss, the first dances, the little ones chasing the lights as they too dance across the floor, the hugs, the laughter, the absolute pure joy, we get to witness humanity in a way that really matters. 

Yes, there can be tension, as everyone wants their wedding to be perfect. Some stress out over this more than others, but it's something that simmers as all the planning, all the preparation, all the decisions about the special day are being made. That stress can sometimes, bleed into the day itself.

The execution of the vision.

As an objective observer of more weddings than I can count over the past 20 some odd years, I've come to understand a few things.

If you'll indulge me, I'd like to share a few of these things in the hopes to relieve some future couples and their parent-type people of a few grey hairs. 

Ready? Here goes.

The music used during your ceremony only needs to mean something to you... the couple getting married. There is no such thing as right or wrong music. Five minutes after the ceremony is over, the odds of your guests remembering what songs were chosen are slim to none. Very few people really care. Your guests are there for you, to watch you exchange vows that are meaningful to you, to bear witness to your commitment. 

When you stress over centerpieces, flowers, and decorations, please keep in mind that your guests will remember how the room made them feel much more than they remember the specific decor. Whether it's a dollar store candle sitting on 50 cents worth of glittery confetti or an elaborate 4 ft vase filled with imported flowers and diamonds, the vibe of the room is what sticks. 

To save yourself a ton of panic, just know that things will not go according to plan. At least not everything. And that's okay. In fact, it's awesome. I've seen some of the most special moments, the most precious moments happen when things go "wrong." Those are the things that create the best memories, the best stories. 

Make sure you are planning the wedding you really want, within the budget you have. Overspending on a wedding does not guarantee a successful marriage. We've all seen it happen. It's not about how much you spend, it's about making sure you and your guests have a great time. A great time doesn't always have to cost an arm and a leg. 

Wedding traditions Shmedding traditions! Throw the bouquet... or don't. Toss the garter... or don't. Have a cake... or don't. Have toasts... or don't. Have a bridal party... or don't. I think you get what I'm getting at. Don't get caught up in what you think is expected. 

Don't send an invitation to anyone who would be surprised to get one. If we get invited to a wedding, and my first thought is, why are they inviting us? We shouldn't have received one. Trim your guest list, accordingly. No law says you have to have a big wedding just for the sake of having a big wedding. 

And finally? Allow yourself to enjoy your day. Be present in it. It passes in a blink. What's going to happen will happen whether you stress about it or not. The people present are there to celebrate you. Let them. 

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Well, I hate to write and run, But I'm getting ready for a visit with my mom. A few days of spending time with a pretty dang important person. 

See ya next time. 

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May every newly married couple understand that they have just created an incredible team.

May they see that through life's shit storms, it has to be a given that on each other you can lean.

May you understand that marriage in real life is nothing like in the movies or on tv.

May you understand that your spouse will, and at times, simultaneously, make you smile and make you seethe. 

May you fully understand to have a good partner, you need to be one.

May you find a way, even when it's dark, even when it feels impossible, to have fun.

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