Friday, October 30, 2015
Happy Halloween....And Other Stuff!!!!!!
Ahhhhhhh a virgin pumpkin! My mind goes crazy with ideas, pinterest pages flashing like a strobe, all kinds of beautiful jack-o-lanterns, sooooo many options............oh wait.........that person.....yeah the one that has the ability to follow through on those aesthetically pleasing "like" catching creations, yeah, that person......that person is not me.
It's not like I've never carved a pumpkin, because I definitely have. You don't run a dayhome for as long as I did without scooping your fair share of seeds.
Luckily, though, my carving skills never had to impress anyone beyond the age of safety scissors. Thankfully, things facebook and pinterest and instagram etc etc didn't exist yet.
Our carvings were simple, most of the fun was had scraping out the "guts" anyway..............
This week, I would like to send a message out to the first time mommies out there. The ones that are a few months in and are just now finding out how hard this really is.
It's okay to feel overwhelmed and inadequate. In fact, it's a rite of passage. Sometimes you are just so exhausted that all that's left to do is cry. It's okay. It's okay to pick up your baby when he cries. He doesn't even know he has feet yet, I think manipulating a full grown adult is a bit beyond his capabilities. If you want to hold him while he sleeps...do it.
Some babies need extra cuddles, some don't. It's good to keep in mind that out of all the books about parenting, to swaddle, not to swaddle, to pick up or let cry, to breastfeed or not, out of all of those books written by brilliant people, your baby hasn't read even one.
Babies are little humans, as complex and diverse as their adult counterparts. They have individual needs, have individual quirks, have their own rhythm. Never forget the person that is most in tune with that rhythm is you. Their parent. Being a parent is hard enough on it's own. When you throw in the expectations of others, or hold yourself to some unrealistic, pinterest- driven benchmark, you're simply being unkind to your baby's lifeline, adding unnecessary stress to an already exhausted situation.
It's okay..........meltdown, rock your baby with your tears running down your face, you wouldn't be the first and most definitely won't be the last. Just don't give up. If you need help, reach out. Ask. If you find the darkness wants to overtake the joy, please talk to someone. Anyone.
We are all in this together.......It's okay........
Well folks, it's been another crazy week, and as I sit here, my hubby is packing the equipment for our show tomorrow night.........
As we go off to entertain the ghouls and goblins, I'll leave you with this wish.........
May the weather hold, so your munchkins' costumes need not be covered by winter gear.
May the neighbours be generous, providing your dentist with his trip to Hawaii again this year.
May their little eyes shine with excitement and not just from the sugar rush.
May the crash be quick so you can "sort" their goodies, don't wake them....husssshhhhh.
May the sugar hang-over be brief, both yours and theirs.
May it pass quickly with minimum tummy aches, maximum shares.
Have a great one! Until next time please check out www.margyreidbooks.com